This time a year ago I’d sold my car, packed up just about everything we owned, and started driving across the country with our dog in a yellow box truck. Saint Anne the Wife and our two boys would be staying in Oklahoma City for the next couple months to finish out the school semester, but Clara the Dog and I were off to New York.
I’d love to brag about how I'm constantly working and how easy it’s been for our family to adjust to our new world, but nothing could be further from the truth. No question it’s been the hardest year of our lives.
It's incredibly short sided to judge a major life change after only the first year, but that doesn't mean I'm not. My first year in college was incredibly awkward. Anne and my marriage is so much better 10 years in compared to our first year. I'm pretty sure too we're better parents now than we were after the first year.
We still miss our family and friends back in Oklahoma City, but we've connected with some fantastic people and developed solid relationships here. By all means we pay too much in rent each month, but just about anyone paying NYC rent would tell you the same thing. We could've paid down most of former mortgage in Oklahoma City with what we've spent on rent in Brooklyn this year. Anne started back to full-time work as a teacher this morning making twice what she made back in Oklahoma, but I want to throw up knowing what we're likely to be paying in childcare now that she's no longer a stay at home mom. This first year has had me working more and on bigger projects than in years past, but it's frustrating knowing I'm still short of my ability and ambition.
Every single day I question whether or not we made the right decision, but I can look back at our three buckets of why we decided to move and take comfort knowing we're still making solid swings at each of them.
"A number of factors finally broke surface tension of actually committing to the move: I felt like my work and creative growth had plateaued; Oklahoma is 50th in the nation in teacher pay and the public education system – short of a few bright spots – is a hot mess; The world is a big place with lots of ideas and dIfferent kinds of people. Anne and I feel like we need to make sure our two kids know and experience that first hand." - Me about a year ago